The missionary position is sex 101. It is usually the go-to move when people are having sex for the first time, and often becomes the most commonly revisited position during long term relationships. And we’ve been doing it for thousands of years: From the Kama Sutra to Ancient Greek depictions on pottery and murals, couples have long been pictured as has having face-to-face, on-top sex.But despite its popularity, there is a long held misconception that missionary position is boring and basic. For years, I fell for this fallacy and touted going doggy style as my fav. But in latter years it’s become increasingly clear to me that missionary is my number one, and I refuse to feel any semblance of shame about it. What’s hotter than being pounded into the mattress, legs and tits akimbo, while your hands frantically grip onto the bed stand, mattress or some back fat to ensure you can reciprocate the back and forth of a good bang? Nothing, that’s what.
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So, as a sex writer with well over a decade of sexual experiences, it’s become imperative for me to stop mucking about and start spreading the true gospel of one of shagging’s core fundamentals. This is your guide to everything you need to know about the missionary position, plus some tips and tricks for turning it up a notch. Missionary sex is when the man is on top and the woman is below. It’s typically associated with straight couplings, but anyone with a hole and a goal can get it to work, regardless of gender. Think of it this way: penetrator on top, penetrated on bottom. The person getting plowed is lying on their back and the person doing said plowing is usually on their knees, in between the legs of their partner. It’s a good position for getting momentum going and keeping thrusts consistent. And it’s also quite a romantic sex position, as you’re face-to-face with your partner and have easy access to sweet moments like holding their hand, stroking their hair or spitting in their gob. In spite of my creative writing degree, I’d never considered the etymology of this sex position, and why it was named after a colonising Christian movement. And the mythology surrounding the title is expectedly fucked up. The story goes that white missionaries, on seeing the various sex positions of other cultures, were shocked by this “sinful” behaviour and considered their male-dominant position to be spiritually superior. Others have disputed this, but still insist that the position originates from the church, who viewed it as the position people should use to bone as opposed to the positions used by animals (eg. doggy style). Either way, missionary has traditionally been put forward as the “correct” way to bonk.
What is the missionary sex position?
Why is it called the missionary position?
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How do you do it?
Why is missionary sex so underrated?
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